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Stand Up Against Bullying

“Be sure to taste you words before you spit them out.”

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By: Jiesel Prado

Are you being bullied in your school? Do you see someone who is being bullied in your school? No worries because here are some tips to prevent or stop it.

  • Stand up for people who are being bullied. Let those bullies know that bullying isn’t cool. Let them know that bullying can lead them to trouble.
  • Take an anti-bullying pledge. Make an anti-bullying pledge and share it to your friends, classmates and schoolmates.
  • Take some actions. Request for an anti-bullying club or organization. Have some anti-bullying symposium etc.
  • Talk to other people. Socialize with your classmates or schoolmates so that they will know you better.
  • Talk to your teachers or principal. Let them know that you are care about the issue. Let them know that you want to avoid this issue.
  • Ignore the bully and walk away. Don’t give your attention to the bully. Just walk and ignore him/her.
  • Talk to the bully. Tell that bully to stop and tell him/her that you will inform your teachers that you are bullying him/her.
  • Pay attention to the people you spend time with. Be with your friends that is nice to you.
  • Don’t back down. Let that bully know that bully see that you are scared. Let that bully know that you can stand up and speak up.

 

Early intervention and effective discipline and boundaries truly is the best way to stop bullying, but parents of the victims or therapists cannot change the bully’s home environment. Some things can be done at the school level, however.

  1. Most school programs that address bullying use a multi-faceted approach to the problem. This usually involves counseling of some sort, either by peers, a school counselor, teachers, or the principal.
  2. Hand out questionnaires to all students and teachers and discuss if bullying is occurring. Define exactly what constitutes bullying at school. The questionnaire is a wonderful tool that allows the school to see how widespread bullying is and what forms it is taking. It is a good way to start to address the problem.
  3. Get the children’s parents involved in a bullying program. If parents of the bullies and the victims are not aware of what is going on at school, then the whole bullying program will not be effective. Stopping bullying in school takes teamwork and concentrated effort on everyone’s part. Bullying also should be discussed during parent-teacher conferences and PTA meetings. Parental awareness is key.
  4. In the classroom setting, all teachers should work with the students on bullying. Oftentimes even the teacher is being bullied in the classroom and a program should be set up that implements teaching about bullying. Children understand modeling behaviors and role-play and acting out bullying situations is a very effective tool. Have students role-play a bullying situation.

Rules that involve bullying behaviors should be clearly posted. Schools also could ask local mental health professionals to speak to students about bullying behaviors and how it directly affects the victims.

  1. Schools need to make sure there is enough adult supervision at school to lessen and prevent bullying.

 

https://psychcentral.com/lib/how-do-we-stop-bullying-in-schools/

Emotional Transition Phenomena

“When people hurt you over and over, think of them like sand paper; They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up useless.” – Chris Colfer

By: Ralph Anthony Cabrera

     Based on http://www.competitive.org.ph by Asia Report, it was claimed that Filipinos are the third happiest people around the world because of the fact that we always smile despite of the problems and challenges each of us encounters. However, some studies shows contradictory statements about being happy of Filipinos. The site http://www.psychologytoday.com says that the more happy you are, the more possibility of being depressed. Well, for some reason, this stigma can be true…as for me, too.

Imagine a happiest person being bullied by his classmates in school, what do you think will happen? You are likely to think that he/she will just ignore that one because we will think he/she can manage that situation. But what if I tell you that happiest person is me where I am bullied for years? Through the years, I really felt like my world was going to crash down as I was soaring high for my dreams, With that violence I had experienced, I wasn’t able to concentrate on my own self as I began to experience meltdowns, thinking that bullying thing will eat  me and crash my goals in life. Just like any other person, the emotional transition from one place to another will be unexpected as they carry sensational emotions in their life and such would be taken by just one trigger, a trigger you do not expect that will cause the death of your entire soul

The emotions you are feeling are growing and growing until you do not know that you are already feeling the emotion you do not expect the most. The emotions that has grown are being developed by the emotions on which a person had been carried away to. In case of a happy person, he/she was carried away by the emotions accompanied by certain factors that can trigger more happiness. That is why a sad person is always having a hard time to adjust with the situation because of the factors that still triggers the emotion on which a person is being carried away.

Changing from one emotion to the other really happens so fast. Even you yourself might not notice that you had turned into that emotion without being aware of it. Yes we can control our inside matters but, can we notice emotional transition? The answer is no. The transition is affected by some factors like family, friends, and of course, violence.

Bullying is an easy thing to do. You can do it verbally, physically, even in the internet, or just in any way you like it. But have you ever imagined what bullying can do to a person. If you bully a sad person, you will just worsen his situation into a more sad emotion that can turn into depression (in case you do not know, depression can be really deadly). If you bully an angry person, it will trigger to a high level of anger as it will lead to more conflicts. And if you bully a happy person, everything will like fall down and shatter into pieces because he/she will not be able to cope with the situation he/she is in because he/she is not used to it. One who is physically or emotionally hurt will be carried away on what had happened as the emotions that will happen will not making them forget the thing happened as it affects them negatively.  If you just know what can bullying do to a person, would you still do it just for your satisfaction?

I just want to say this; what if you are the one being bullied, what will you feel? For bullies out there, you just don’t know what can bullying can do to a person. How about take time to recognize other’s feeling too? I think you should put your feet into other’s shoes

PREVENTIONS TO STOP BULLYING

“Life is a fight, but not everyone’s a fighter. Otherwise, bullies would be an endangered species.” – Andrew Vachss

By: Jiesel Prado

Through our advocacy, we will inform you on how to solve or stop bullying. Our group decided that we will let you know how to prevent or stop bullying.We will give you some ways on how to prevent or solve it  Here are some ways to prevent it.

First, if you are in school, find some time to do some symposium about bullying.It will help the students to learn or know on how to prevent it and make them realize what will happen if they didn’t stop bullying. It will also inform the students that bullying is now against the law and let them know that they should take it seriously.

Second, if you are being bullied, tell that person to stop or tell it to someone who is older than you. Don’t let that bully criticize or judge you. Tell somebody or someone that you are being bullied so that they will talk to that bully and tell him/her to stop.

Third, if you see someone who is being bullied, you should reach out or talk to that person that he/she should stop bullying. Tell that bully that bullying someone is not good and tell that person that he/she should not bully because we are all equal.

Fourth, If you are being bullied in school, you should tell that to your teacher quickly or someone who can talk to you. You should also tell your classmate/schoolmate that he/she should not bully someone. Let your teachers be informed that you are being bullied.

Lastly, If you are at home, If you are being bullied by your brothers or sisters tell that to your mom and dad so that they will talk to them and tell them not to bully you.

Voices by concerned citizens: “No To Bullying!”

“What if the kid you bullied at school, grew up, and turned out to be the only surgeon who could save your life?” – Lynette Mather

By: Ralph Anthony Cabrera

    If you asked a person if they were bullied or not, what do you think would be their answer? For me, most of them will answer something like this. “Oo naman” or “Oo, siguro halos araw – araw” in lined with the fact that they are being bullied all the time. And for some who tend to answer, “Hindi pa naman” or “Medyo”, we believe that they are able to cope with situations positively but that is not the case. What the main issue is that most of the people are bullied and based on a research in America, 85 percent of the teenagers are being bullied as negative impacts are being manifested on them.

Wherever you go, we tend to see violent situations like someone being bullied physically at school or even at home or someone being verbally attacked in front of the people. But it doesn’t end there. It also happens in some forms like on the internet or we can call it Cyber Bullying. In our society today, Bullying became a part of our life. It totally became a norm or a tradition in a way everybody does it or experiences it. It became a norm because we tend to believe it is never ending as it should always happen. But for us, it has to stop where someone has to take an action, where someone has to take a stand and fight for what is right, and someone has to inspire people to do what’s good or everyone. We, the BCS, want to stop bullying before everything is too late.

Our group, Bullying Crusaders Society, is composed of members who are concerned with they way of living of people especially in teenagers who are somehow challenged. They have observed that people are being bullied in all kinds of forms for no valid reason (well, there is no really definite reason to bully someone unless you are perfect or what). We want to take a step and decided to use our voices as to promote our advocacy, which is to stop bullying. These voices were representing the people screaming for justice and equality.

Our group wanted to introduce the effects, kinds, and impacts, and everything about bullying. Through our voices, each of the problem will be addressed properly and effectively. We want to raise social awareness through our chosen platforms that will help aid the problem. We will also recommend solutions that will help individuals like you on how to positively cope with situations

What we want is to make a big difference out of small steps where we can help individuals solve the burden they carry in their shoulders

BYSTANDER? STAND UP AND MAKE A MOVE!

“If there are no heroes to save you, then you be the hero” – Denpa Kyoshi

By: Hazel Guevarra

“If you saw Bullying, what would you do to stop it? Would you just stand by and let it happen, take part in it or try to stop it?” Not many students think about this, and that is part of the problem. Admit it or not, we all experience different types of Bullying- Cyber Bullying, Physical Bullying, Verbal Bullying, and Social Bullying. These four types are really evident everywhere that is why Bullying is one of the major issues in the society.

According to the Statistics, there are 3.2 million victims of Bullying each year and 160, 000 teens skip school everyday because of Bullying. By that, we can say that Bullying has been part of our lives. Bullying is a serious crime and yet most people are just ignoring or not taking it seriously. We do not know that the people we bully often may have emotional or mental breakdown that may led them to suicide nor death.

What are the things we always do that is associated with growing up? Going to parties, breaking laws or rules, teasing our friends or classmates, falling in love, and many more. In the said selection, teasing is the most common thing to youth. Why? Because it makes the bully happy just to see his or her victim being affected, annoyed, be embarrassed, or get angry. Teasing becomes Bullying when it is repetitive or when there is a conscious intent to hurt another child.

“Be sure to taste your words before you spit them out” this quote may be somehow related to Verbal Bullying. As what the quote is trying to say, we should think first what we really want to say to other people before we tell it out loud. Words are more powerful than swords because it cannot be revoke. Also, words are powerful because they carry energy, sound, and frequency, which are some of the building “blocks” of matter that even a simple word that you said to anyone can shatter their whole existence.

Different Bullying issues have gone viral over the internet on social media such as Facebook and Twitter. Are you even remotely aware of how much pain these victims feel every day? When the victims see no way out, they may choose to tragically end their life, leaving more hurt behind for those who were unable to stop it. So please stop Bullying now! Stand up and speak out!

Fact: 85% of Bullying takes place in front of others. Don’t be a bystander!

A Damaging Word

“Bullying is a horrible thing. It sticks with you forever. It poisons you. But only if you let it.” – Heather Brewer

By: Audrey Anne Almonina

         BULLYING. 8 letters and 3 syllables yet very damaging. Really degrading. It has been going on for so long yet the problem remains unresolved. Everyday, millions of school children attend class with fears of being bullied, of being hurt. In fact, even those schools that pride in being bully-free can go absolutely wrong. Bullying simply cannot be stopped if the bullies, themselves, would not understand the drastic impacts they are causing. In the previous article, I have mentioned that bullying affects not only the victims, but the bullies and witnesses as well. For this article, I will be focusing mainly on the effects that bullying brings to its victims.

Being bullied is perhaps one of life’s greatest miseries. And I’m not just saying this just because I think it is the best thing to say. I, myself, had known of someone who was bullied back then and−yes− it sucks more than anything else. Here is her narration: “I remember dreading to go to school. Heck even just the thought of school makes my stomach churn and butterflies fly in them. I remember having sleepless nights crying under the covers, hoping the bullies will die the next day. Of course, that doesn’t happen. But what does happen is that my self-esteem and confidence swooped downright. Then I realized I have been suffering more than I should. I realized the best thing was to change myself to show them what I can do. Instead of wasting time dwelling over the hurtful words they spew on me, I studied hard. I spent almost every free time I have improving myself. My hard work paid off. I became the rank one of the whole seventh grade class. The taunting never did stop though. Even the teachers traumatized me. But they made me stronger. The scars are still there, yes, but they displayed just how strong I become. Imagine all the battles I’ve gone through!”

I hope that whoever is reading this article right now−victims or bullies−I hope that you have taken inspiration from our anonymous person’s experience. To the victims, just keep your heads up high and be strong like her. To the bullies, PLEASE DO STOP. What you are doing, for you, might seem funny and enjoyable, but for the victims, they can get traumatizing. THINK BEFORE YOU BULLY. You don’t know what kind of pain you inflict on the victims.

Being bullied causes stress, depression, anxiety, lack of interest in school and other activities, and even suicidal thoughts and/or attempts. It causes emotional scars.

A note to the bullies: You damage the people you bully. You know how some people who damage properties go to jail, right? You sure don’t want to be labeled a criminal for damaging people, do you? Think about it. Your actions today define who you will be tomorrow.

Stop Bullying

“Courage is fire and bullying is smoke.” – Benjamin Disraeli

By: Hazel Guevarra

Bullying is a crime. Many people are not knowledgeable about this serious matter that is why many victims experience it. Beforehand, let’s further discuss Bullying.

Bullying can be defined as many things. It can be teasing, name- calling, stereotyping, fighting, exclusion, spreading rumors, public shaming and aggressive intimidation. It can be in person and online. But it can no longer be considered a rite of passage that strengthens character, new research suggests.

Bullying can take place just about anywhere, including in the school building, playground, classroom, on the way to or from school, online, by phone, at home and at work; basically anywhere people interact with each other. Here are the four common types of Bullying:

  1. Verbal Bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal Bullying includes:
  • Teasing
  • Name-calling
  • Inappropriate sexual comments
  • Taunting
  • Threatening to cause harm
  1. Social Bullying, sometimes referred to as Relational Bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. Social Bullying includes:
  • Leaving someone out on purpose
  • Telling other children not to be friends with someone
  • Spreading rumors about someone
  • Embarrassing someone in public
  1. Physical Bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical Bullying includes:
  • Hitting or kicking or pinching
  • Spitting
  • Tripping or pushing
  • Taking or breaking someone’s things
  • Making mean or rude hand gestures
  1. Cyber Bullying involves taunting or humiliation through social media sites (Facebook, Twitter, etc.) or the Internet. Cyber Bullying includes:
  • Cruel websites targeting specific youth
  • Humiliating others while playing online games
  • Verbal or emotional bullying through chat rooms
  • Instant message or texting
  • Posting photos of other youth on rating websites, etc.

But why do people become a victim?  Three of the main reasons are their physical appearance, having low self-esteem, and social status in life. Bullies pick people who are an easy target such as kids who won’t fight back,  who are unpopular or nerd, won’t fit in the group, having a different race, religion, vulnerable enough ,and shy people because they won’t stand up for themselves and tend to be quiet than to speak up.

Bullying is a simple term that many do not apply to anyone in power. However, Bullying starts at a young age when people are perceived as weak. Let’s all think that Bullying is not okay and is not part of growing up for all adolescence. It has negative impacts to an individual that can cause mental and emotional illness, suicide, and death. So before it becomes severe and unstoppable, we should all take a stand, make an action, and prevent it at all cost.

According to CNN Health, “the study also concluded with a call to action, suggesting that while the government has justifiably focused on addressing maltreatment and abuse in the home, they should also consider Bullying as a serious problem that requires schools, health services and communities to prevent, respond to or stop this abusive culture from forming.” So what are you waiting for? Take the pledge and join the movement!

 

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Everyone is a Victim: Stop Bullying

“Pulling someone down will never help you reach the top.” – Kushandwizdom

By: Audrey Anne Almonina

   Bullying is evident almost everywhere. Almost anyone can experience and suffer from it. Whether it’s physical or verbal abuse, both poses a threat to the victims and−yes, even the bully and those who witness bullying are negatively affected.

To start off, let me discuss the negative impacts of bullying to the victims. Kids who are bullied are prone to increased rates of depression and anxiety, as well as sadness and loneliness. Their school performance may be drastically affected as they are more likely to skip classes or drop out. They may also suffer from health problems such as headaches or stomach aches. Bullying also causes long-term damage to self-esteem. Kids who had been bullied before are more likely to bully others as well in order for them to feel superior−something they didn’t get when they were bullied. Aside from these, bullying has also been hugely associated with suicide along with other factors like family problems and stress.

Even the bullies can be affected. Kids who bully can also resort to violent and risky behaviors by the time of their adulthood. They have higher of chances of engaging in alcohol and drug abuse, fights, vandalizing properties, dropping out of school, criminal acts, and other abusive acts. When they bully others, they feel powerful so they tend to do it repeatedly. This can affect the way they think. ‘If they bully others, they gain power’. They may get a wrong perception of superiority.

The bystanders −those kids who witness acts of bullying−can also be negatively affected. They can also experience increased mental health problems including depression and anxiety. Witnessing acts of violence and harshness affects them psychologically.

So before anything else, here’s a warning: STOP BULLYING BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE. You don’t know if the person you are bullying has other problems and you are only adding up to their burden. For you, those words and insults, slaps and kicks might mean nothing but for them, those are deadly hurdles they have to go through each day you bully them. You wouldn’t know how hard their life is until you walk in their shoes.

If you know someone who is a bully, talk them over it. Tell them to stop. And if you know someone who’s being bullied, comfort them and help ease their pain. Bullying does not only leave physical scars, but emotional scars as well. Be a life saver and do the right thing.

The negative impacts that bullying brings can damage a person for a lifetime and affect their goals and dreams. So before things get too late, it’s time to step up and act. SAY NO TO BULLYING!

“I would rather be a little nobody, then to be a evil somebody.” – Abraham Lincoln

Welcome to our blog! We will be posting blog articles here that will tackle the issue of bullying. You may want to leave a comment and share your thoughts. Read on and together, let’s stop bullying. Happy Reading!